Truth hurts sometimes, but we just have to accept it. But it's a struggle for you. Sometimes you come up with all sorts of excuses and arguments as to why something is not quite like that, when deep down you know it is.
You can start by accepting that sometimes the truth is not nice. Sometimes you will feel bad, sometimes it’ll go against what you’d like it to be, but it’s nonetheless the truth. Acceptance doesn’t come easy, but being aware of this means you're halfway there.
Those closer to you tend to have a better understanding of who you are, and if more than just a couple of people have commented on your bad attitude, maybe they have a point.
Everyone irritates you, somehow. You tend to always find a fault, no matter how small, that will make you dislike that person.
You just can’t genuinely apologize, and rarely do so. Saying sorry is an acknowledgement that you have done something wrong, and you are always right, so that’s simply not possible. Well, not quite.
Why are you always looking for a fight? Feeling constantly irritated can be a sign that you are struggling with something, including mental health issues such as depression. Be aware of when you feel like this. It’s the first step to understanding your reaction.
Maybe it’s time to start listening to them. And to talk to them about it. Ask them to give you specific examples and how they think you should have acted/reacted instead. This is a great way to gain awareness of your actions and attitude.
Sources: (A Conscious Rethink) (Live Bold and Bloom)
See also: Signs your family doesn't care about you
In addition to being a negative person to be around, playing the victim is a way to not take any responsibility for what happens to you. Is the world really that cruel to you, or do you just not want to be accountable for anything bad that may happen to you? Reflect on this.
For instance, you may be an expert in your job, but you sure do lack in other areas of your life. And this applies to other people, too. Just because someone is not amazing in the same area you are, it doesn’t mean they are less than you. It just means their strengths lie somewhere else.
You think you are superior to those around you. Sure, you may be good in some areas, but don’t let your arrogance trick you into thinking you know it all. There is always someone, somewhere, better than you at something.
Try to view other’s achievements as a good thing for everyone. Would you rather live in a world of winners or losers?
You might just feel entitled and not really care, and hence never apologize, but maybe you’re just afraid that your apology is perceived as weakness. In fact, it’s quite the contrary—it takes courage to own your wrongdoings, and you should be proud to apologize when that’s the right thing to do. Try it.
But maybe, deep down, you’re just insecure. Plus, some people do like you, and you’re not sure what to do because that’s out of your comfort zone of being the baddie. You may have unresolved trauma, and being in this position is comfortable and familiar to you. Though that doesn’t mean it’s healthy.
You have a victim mentality and make everything about you. You are always the victim when it comes to injustices and tragedies, including that of others, which you claim as yours.
You just can’t seem to be happy for other people’s success. It really bothers you. This is usually a sign of envy. This not only is very tiring, but it’s also toxic for you and the other person(s) involved.
Are you proud of people disliking you? They are the ones who are wrong, right? After all, you market yourself as unlikeable from the start, so it’s natural that people don’t expect you to be nice.
You may be struggling with genuine problems or indeed trauma. Whatever it is, it needs to be addressed so that you can get out of that place of negativity. Perhaps looking for professional help in the form of therapy may help. Though the first step is to recognize that you do need help.
This narrative is very dangerous, as you often end up choosing one side over the other, regardless of whether it's a good or bad thing for you and others. It also robs you of how complex and interesting the world is. Life is full of nuances—accept and embrace them.
As for expecting respect (for being someone noteworthy) without warranting it, that’s just delusional. As mentioned previously, that kind of respect must be earned. Ask yourself: what have you done to deserve other people’s respect?
Respect, as in admiration, is earned. We respect some people for who and what they are, but respect for one’s condition as a human is universal and should apply to everyone.
You see the world in black and white. For you there are no nuances, no gray area; it’s either one side or the other.
Sure, expect to be treated fairly, or at least in the same way others are—providing you do the same. If you interfere with people’s lives negatively, expect the same treatment.
Sure, we all have bad days, but being consistently in a negative mood is a sign that there are underlying issues. If your days are filled with anger, bitterness, and envy, among negative feelings, that's simply not very healthy.
The world is not as dangerous as you perceive it to be, and it certainly does not revolve around you. There are good and bad people out there; don’t let the bad ones cloud your judgment.
You feel like everyone is out to get you and/or take advantage of you. If someone does something that somehow affects you in a negative way, it’s usually never unintentional (in your mind).
You’ll just have to accept that the world doesn't really owe you anything, and, yes, you’ll have to join the line and wait your turn. Essentially, just follow the rules like everyone else, and don't expect special treatment.
Or, in other words, you feel entitled. You don’t really empathize with other people’s problems, and you just expect the world to bend the rules for you. Why this is, well, that's a matter for you to reflect on.
Yes, we all do it to a certain degree, but not all the time, meticulously. If you’re looking for things to make you feel inferior to the other person, you’ll surely find them.
Think about what triggers that envy. Why do you feel jealous and bitter about another person’s success, instead of happy for them? Is it to make yourself feel bad? To bring the other person down? Do you think it's unfair? Why? These are all questions you can ask yourself.
Sure, we all have our quirks, and we definitely all have our good and bad days. But our attitude in life—towards ourselves, other people, and the world at large—also plays a big part in how we feel and how others perceive us. Sometimes we may even have an attitude problem and don't even realize it.
In this gallery, you can discover the signs that suggest you have a bad attitude, as well as the steps you can take to fix it. Click on for more.
Signs you have a bad attitude (and what to do about it)
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Sure, we all have our quirks, and we definitely all have our good and bad days. But our attitude in life—towards ourselves, other people, and the world at large—also plays a big part in how we feel and how others perceive us. Sometimes we may even have an attitude problem and don't even realize it.
In this gallery, you can discover the signs that suggest you have a bad attitude, as well as the steps you can take to fix it. Click on for more.